Goodbye 2016!

Wow, this year is up and it has been quite a year of renewal, revelations and real-ism. I have personally and professionally witnessed that first hand. My lesson out of it…”Guard my Grace.” Listen to and hear  my own inner voice. If I can’t hear, recognizing the fact that God has brought people into my life literally ones I would have never guessed that our paths would have crossed have dropped in  for a reason, season or a lesson. I had to learn to open my heart to receive it and trust the process as we all know is not always easy. One that was most important and that sticks out with me was this. When you come to the end of your rope…….let it go! Why hold on to something that’s not holding on to you? So I say to you take this time to reflect, renew and pack away. We are not carrying these bags into 2017 because as Ms. Badu said, “it will just hurt our back!” Let’s get some new luggage and mines will have wheels! Remember it’s never too late to start. This applies to me as well, I have struggles just like you, trust me when I say no one is exempted....

“Too big too much”

Hey you guys I went to an event that was pretty interesting the other day. It was designed for “like mindedness single people” with different ages I would say between 30-50. I love attending events that bring different perspectives together. Although the single part felt a little weird to me, but anyway I’m learning to open myself up more. Because I have become way too guarded. Okay so they opened the floor by going across the room and everyone introducing themselves. It’s almost like you want to say, “Hi I’m Gina and I’ve been clean for 2 months!” So this one girls introduces herself and say she is kinda quiet and not open and after we completed the introductions. She goes full in about how she can look at a man and detect from the way he dresses that he is not for her. People are like onions and you have to peel back layers to sometimes get to the good. So sometimes you can’t be too big in your thoughts and short change yourself and miss your blessing. So the wrap it up is….sometimes it’s okay to be small and to sit back and allow that person to just surrender if interested and come to you....

“Breaking the Chain”

I had an interesting day today but I realized that this opportunity was presented for a “Teaching Moment.” Sometimes I think that situations arise between family, friends and relationships, to allow growth or to help bring order to relationships. I feel that we have gotten away from our “teaching moments.”  When I was growing up and although I never really thought about it I was constantly given little nuggets of life. Of course at that time it was more of a village, you didn’t just have “one mother” everyone played a role in your life in every facets. I miss that so I try to use that with my girls every chance I get. Even though they are older those lessons are more important now because the situations are no longer simple. We all know that there is no Mother Handbook….I wished there were at times but we basically go off our blueprint that was presented to us from our parents and what we learn along the way. Which may at times not be the appropriate thing, that’s how bad habits get established in any relationships because the lack of just talking, explaining or expressing your emotions. I have a bad habit of holding back sometimes, so consequently I created a pattern that my family thinks that I am “SuperWoman” but I am not. No cape for me! So I expressed how I felt, talked it out and explained what they made me feel like and they explained how they felt. We talked it and BOOM no problem on that issue anymore. A hug at the end and everything...

The Journey Continues

Man, I know it has been a while since I’ve chatted with you guys but my life has been a world wind. A lot going on and a lot revealed. What I love most is that I have discovered a lot about myself and others around me. You do know that basically my morning motivations come from my everyday life experiences. I am so finding my center and my strength. I am stronger and I thank God that I was able to take the time to “be still” and allow me to hear him and also send me other confirmations on this journey and I’m telling you I haven’t felt this amazing in a long time. Like deep down in my soul where it stirs me to want to move in my OWN direction and own it as mine. Most of my decisions have always been to someone else’s benefit or agenda and it finally feels free to remove those chains and not have the guilt that comes along with it. Let me just tell you, there is something about having the courage to live your authentic self that you own and no one can take away or duplicate it. No matter how hard they try. And that my friends is a blessing! #RockSteady #YouCanOwnYourOwnDream #SpeakLifeIntoYourself...